Why am I so lame? I have some serious mad ass skill when I can stay detached. I have game so sick it's like a cancer patient with the flu. But the SECOND I put my game aside, I get fucked up. I end up liking someone, and I go from cool, confident, funny, together ME to this girly, backwards, half shy, diffident MESS. I absolutely ABHOR this about myself. I don't know what changes, I don't know what makes it different. I mean, I think I know... but I don't like that it's the most likely excuse for it.... I'm insecure.
I drop hints. I do things that if they were paying attention, they would see in big neon fucking letters "HEY!! I LIKE YOU!!! LIKE- I LIKE LIKE YOU!" I do this because then if he's not into me, like I am into him, he has the choice to look at it, realize it for what it is, and do with it what he wants. It's not me making the first move, but it's me making it (from the way I see it) abundantly OBVIOUS that I am open to the first move.
Like... there is a BIG FUCKING REASON I haven't been laid in 2 months. It's for gotdamn sure not because I *CAN'T* get laid. I've got one who's tryin for his first rodeo, another who would drive an hour if I let him. I also have a quite impressive following on my page where I am sure I could have pick of the litter -- men and women alike (and I have some pretty hawt fucking deviants.) And, well.... I could call you. We both know this is truth. I won't call you tho. Why? Well... I get all fuckin backwards n shit. I can joke like I would just be like "Yeah, fuck me til I am stumbling, slurring and stuttering." But I couldn't pull that off, even if that's what I am craving. Not to mention.... I don't want to get lost in the numbers. I am better than that. I deserve better than that... But I haven't been laid, because I want you to see that I *AM* someone you could trust. And because right now, the thought of fuckin someone else isn't doin it for me.
Like... I am a damn good friend... I know I am. But I am not *that* good of a friend. I mean fer cereals... I offer to do A LOT for you... things that you should stop and think about... Really... would I seriously offer to do that for someone who was 'just my friend'???? Would you??? Didn't think so....
Like.... There were a total of 7 people who got personal messages from me at midnight on New Year's. All people who MEAN something to me. (No offense to those who didn't get one. lol. I can't type that fast, and I wanted them as close to or ON midnight as possible. So family got about half of them. Close friends and you, got the rest. Maybe it's just a girl thing that I thought this would say something. I mean, the GIRLS that I asked agreed. But it's just one more thing.
Smile, is this coming together yet?? If not Sweets, buy a clue. I am getting bitched at that I haven't said how I feel, that I haven't said I am interested. I have my reasons. Mostly that I am terrified about feeling ANYTHING. It was one thing when it was the boy. I'd known him almost my whole life, there was a level of being comfortable, a realization that it wasn't going to be any big deal, no matter what happened. And I think that was 98% conquest.
I want it to be clear, I didn't want to feel this way. I also have not.a.fucking.clue. what to do with it now that it's there. And it's been there... for a hot minute... since like well... before my mom passed. I just ignored it. Which after this blog, I think seems like the perfect idea. Go back to ignoring it... that way if you want to do something about it... bet. If not... I'm not an idiot. Also, for the record... I'm not looking to run away and get married. I'm not looking for a fairytale. I'm not even lookin for you to stand next to me and wash the dishes. I just want some of your time... I just want the possibility of maybe something someday.
It's easy to forget how lonely you are when you are always forcing yourself to laugh.
*BSWK*
By far one of my favorite ;-)
ReplyDeleteUGH! I totally understand how you feel. Why oh why did I allow myself to feel something for him. I never do that. I was content with the friendship with him, but now I feel like an idiot cause I want so much more. How does that shit happen?
ReplyDeleteI so agree with this blog. From a mans point of view it sucks to show someone how much you care for them, but they don't show interest or aren't sure. That said I have also had a woman show me all the things you talk about and when I told her I wanted to date her she balked and walked. That is why my knew mantra is say what you mean and means what you say. Love the blog.
ReplyDeletethat last line....damn is all i can say
ReplyDeletehe'd still be a damn fool after reading this one! on a side note, another damn fine blog
ReplyDeleteBeautiful blog...as always <3 But more importantly, I was one of the 7. Giggles ;)
ReplyDeleteHe better notice, sounds pretty obvious to me... if not, it's his loss. You are amazing!
ReplyDeleteI didn't get one at midnight from anybody :( I got mine before midnight from people
ReplyDeleteTime and again I have been that soft shoulder to cry on when they lose their men. I do what I can to help them through the hard times. Then when I express any sort of interest, I am told I'm to good of a friend to date. The next thing I know she's telling me all the good ones are taken. They are all taken because you put us on the friend list and go after the same sort of trash that dumped you or cheated on you before. I hope your guy notices, and that you are treated as you should be. I know that I would love to have anyone to be that someone special to me right now, I'm tired of the lonely nights.
ReplyDeleteStay strong!
ReplyDeleteyou are amazing. and men aren't.
ReplyDeletethat's what it is XD
lol love ya slut
as a perpetual member of the "oh that's just her, she's my buddy" club i can sympathize. cause most of the guys i was buddies to, i would have torn up 3 ways from sideways. good luck to ya and i hope he catches a clue. and the whole acting completely different around someone you like, hating it, yet can't do anything about it? yeah, i'm so guilty of that too. it sucks total balls and i wish you the best with it. :-)
ReplyDeletethank god i'm not the only one who gets all a mess when you start to feel more for someone. It is so fucking annoying! Guys can blind deaf and dumb to the most obvious things. Its painful for someone to not realize what they have in front of them. You know what your worth don't settle for less!
ReplyDeleteWow totally know that feeling
ReplyDeletefunny I dont feel loved
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