So, I was trying to discuss this with the guys in my life, and most of them don't even get the idea. They don't understand it. So I am going to try to break it down and maybe you can give me the deets in the comments or email me Silly_Slut@rocketmail.com and I can write another one in the future about it, with all the information I glean from your input.
Guys, are you ever talking to a girl, and she says the perfect thing at the perfect time? Or she says something that stirs a past conversation in your mind and makes you smile because of it? She's tactical flirting. She remembered that shit, she's studied you.... She KNOWS what to say and when because she's paid attention... She's kept a mental scorecard in her head of the good and the bad. (Tactical fighting works the same way, only to the negative. lol)
Girls pay attention. Do guys? Do they specifically remember things to bring up? If you are diggin on a girl, do you remember stupid little things to bring up at a later date to gently mind fuck her?
wow yeah that's true, and while I don't pay attention as good as my wife does, i retain some good information.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely, remembering lil things and simply paying attention is by far the the best aphrodisiac
ReplyDeleteI do in fact bring things up from past conversations. I love that momentary pause when they remember talking about it.
ReplyDeleteThis could not be MORE true,I got my husband by tactical flirting :)
ReplyDeleteI think tactical flirting is infinitely more important for men to employ than it is for women. When you said the following:
ReplyDelete"Guys, are you ever talking to a girl, and she says the perfect thing at the perfect time?"
That's like shooting fish in a barrel for women. The only thing a women needs to say that is perfect is "yes" and the right time is whenever a man is asking for a date or sex.
You're right that men often forget to remember those little details about the female they desire to bring up later. Thank goodness for Facebook profiles.
I do this all the time, and had it done to me at least as much. And that moment of pause is great for both parties - one feels excitement over the other remembering the trivialities of who they are, the other feels satisfaction over knowing they brought on those feelings in the other.
ReplyDeleteYes, I have been mind fucked many a time and enjoyed every minute!
I don't remember shit! It just comes out naturally. If it has to happen, ok! if not, ok too! I like what was said above, the remembering little details and stuff, and it just comes out when you're having a good time, but I don't do it tactically, or with a goal... it sound's a little with some sort of manipulation. the amount of manipulation I enjoy in a relationship is limited xD
ReplyDeleteIncredibly manipulative, dishonest and arrogant. If you ain't in the open, you're not having a relationship. You're hiding while taking advantage of the emotional open-ness that the other has given you in good faith, whether partial or full.
ReplyDeleteWho said it's not in the open? Flirting is flirting. There's nothin wrong with flirting. And if you are flirting, 9 times out of 10 if you are FLIRTING you haven't reached "relationship" levels yet. Jus' sayin'
DeleteI hate to have to correct the slut, BUT, if you aren't flirting with the woman you're in a relationship with, you won't be in that relationship long. The flirting doesn't stop when the relationship begins... just sayin.
DeleteI do this all the time, and tend to think it's more important for men to remember to pay attention and do this than it is for women. This stuff triggers an emotional reaction and connection, which is important for women. Where as men tend to get more aroused by visual stimulation, a la epic boobage.